When a death occurs in the family, it is very difficult to see clearly and to think without letting emotions take over. Sometimes this is expected and we can then prepare ourselves, but when a loved one leaves us suddenly, it can lead to conflicts within the family. Even the closest-knit families can run into conflict when it comes to estate matters. Crématorium Montréal therefore has some tips to offer you on how to avoid family conflicts when a loved one dies.

Communication and precautions

In order to avoid any conflicts or heated situations at the time of your death, it is preferable to open the discussion about your estate in advance, with your children or your family. Conflicts are frequent when there is a large amount of money at stake, so it is best to inform your loved ones of your intentions and find solutions together. If it concerns the inheritance of material goods or family assets, a planned family meeting will help avoid any misunderstandings or frustrations and will also help find common ground on the distribution of assets. Your informed family will therefore have no surprises on the day of your funeral, as they will know what to expect. Clearly communicating your specific expectations and wishes to your family can save a lot of trouble.

Also, be honest with yourself and acknowledge family conflicts. When it comes time to settle an estate, old conflicts that have been simmering in the family for a long time sharply resurface. This is also when feelings of favouritism on the part of one of the children arise from sometimes trivial actions. It is therefore important to ensure that there is good understanding between the siblings and to clarify any jealousies that may have been lingering for a number of years.

A few key pieces of advice

First of all, leave clear instructions to your family members regarding the existence and location of your important documents. This will avoid unnecessary treasure hunting and frustration on the part of the heirs. Next, consider appointing a neutral executor for your estate. An objective professional who has no interest in the assets and money to be liquidated will handle everything in a more detached manner, leaving no room for emotion.

In short, it is difficult to foresee everything in advance, let alone the reactions that your loved ones may have. However, it is preferable to take the time to explain your plans, motivations and interests to your family, in order to reduce the chances of family conflicts arising when you leave this world. If you have any questions or would like someone to guide you in your prearrangements and with the estate, contact one of our advisors at Crematorium Montréal, at 514 940-0566.