When the time comes to pay your last respects to a loved one, it is sometimes difficult to find the right words to express the extent of your feelings towards that person and to summarize the highlights of his or her life in just a few short minutes. Crématorium Montréal has compiled some tips and advice to help you write a eulogy that is appropriate for the person whose memory you wish to celebrate.

1. Write down the words that describe the deceased
   On a sheet of paper, write down the words that come to mind when you think of the deceased: qualities, favourite phrases, favourite songs, hobbies, anecdotes, etc. If you lack inspiration, also check with people who knew the person well.
2. Determine the form of your eulogy
   The typical eulogy usually touches on a number of aspects of the deceased, which you can put in the following order: your relationship with the person, a short biography of his or her work, family and personal life, their passions and main qualities, a few anecdotes and a conclusion that ends with a quote, song or poem.You can also provide a general portrait of the deceased, specifying that person’s main qualities and why he or she was appreciated, or recount the main stages of that person’s life chronologically, adding a few anecdotes. If you want to add a little bit of a lighter tone to your eulogy, you can simply choose to link a number of anecdotes that well illustrate the various traits of that person and that touch on all aspects of his or her life.
3. Structure your ideas
   Once you have determined the form of your eulogy, write an outline by structuring the ideas you have written down and including an introduction and a conclusion. This step will help ensure that you don’t forget anything and will make the writing process much easier.
4. Write the main part of your speech
   This key step is often one of the most difficult. If you are unsure how to begin your eulogy, you can ask a question, quote the deceased, or use a proverb or quotation. Choose words that are simple but that still convey your emotions.
5. Have one or two people read your eulogy
   Once you have completed your first draft, read your eulogy to a few close friends or family members to get their feedback and to make sure you haven’t forgotten anything. Then correct your draft, if necessary.
6. Practice your eulogy out loud
   On the day of the funeral, you will probably be nervous. To minimize your stress, rehearse your speech a few times to master it. This will also help you determine where to pause and how to deliver your sentences.
7. Print your text
   Preferably, space out your text and print it out in a large enough font, or write it in clear handwriting to ensure that it is easy to read.

In the process, remember that what’s important is to let your heart speak and not to strive for perfection at all cost. The deceased would certainly not have demanded it, nor will your audience, for that matter. If you need help or inspiration in writing your eulogy, you can always ask your Crématorium Montréal advisor, who can guide you.